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Do You Complain Too Much?

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I received an email giving me kudos for characteristics such as optimism, humor, slight sarcasm, honesty and genuine care for others. Of course I have no objections to being lavished with compliments! But the lovely sender of the email also mentioned that I never complain. I replied with many thanks but of course, being the honest gal I am, I had to admit that I do complain sometimes. I simply try not to complain about complete non-sense or complain too often. I also try not complain about the same thing over and over, like a broken record. What does that solve?

Everyone needs to vent now and then. There a millions of gripes but there is a choice of whether it’s necessary or worth it to complain. My tea is too hot, I want an iPod Touch, the tablet I requested is on back order and the closest Cold Stone Creamery is a 30 minute drive away. I could easily complain about those things constantly but they are completely material and not that serious in my opinion. When I have a frustration release moment, I’d rather vent about my real challenges like having Lupus, being in pain 60% of the time and feeling exhausted. I’d talk about health care costs, the education system kiddo is enrolled in and the bad influence the world potentially has on him as he ages.

Notice the differences in situations. “I have nothing to eat” is different than “I have nothing I want to eat”. If you have even a saltine cracker in your home, that is something to eat as opposed to the numerous people with literally nothing to eat. “I hate my job” is different than “I have no job”. I’m not saying never complain, never vent and act happy no matter what. Nor am I saying jobs, classes, kids, spouses, etc. aren’t frustrating at times. I’m simply saying think a bit before complaining about every little thing. You may hate your job but remember there a millions of unemployed people out there that would love to take your position along with all it’s frustrations just to have an income. Make a list of legitimate reasons why you hate your job before you decide to spew out to the world that you hate it. Some of us also get so used to looking at the negative and whining so much that we’ll tend to complain about things regardless of the outcome. Today you complain that you hate your job but tomorrow you could be complaining that you were fired or laid off! You may hate going to class but if you couldn’t afford tuition or get financial aid you’d most likely be complaining about how you can’t go to class! You can complain today that you want a newer, fancier car but if your car were taken out of the picture you’d probably complain because you do not have car! It was too hot yesterday, now it’s too cold today. See the point?

We may find many things to complain about but surely we have at least 1 thing to be happy about. Venting is okay in moderation but don’t allow yourself to become that person known for complaining all the time. That friend people avoid because your constant complaints ruin their mood…don’t be the one who bums people out! There’s a difference between venting and raining on everyone’s parade. Don’t become the Negative Nancy of your circle! I always advise people that for every negative thing you say, immediately follow that conversation with a positive topic. If you can help it, never end your conversation with a negative topic!

I’ve been sick all week and Mr. Man got on my nerves but I woke up feeling better than yesterday and the mister is behaving like a prince again. Even though I have loads of work to catch up on, I love what I do and am appreciative to have work at all! I’m looking forward to some product reviews, shipments and a new project this week. See…healthy, limited venting followed by positivity. I hope all of you darlings have a wonderful week!

  • tetheredmommy

    I like to think I don't complain too much. You're right – many of my complaints are not really complaint-worthy. Thanks for the reminder of how fortunate I am!

  • Syrana

    I definitely vent. My husband probably hears the most complaining so that no one else has to :P

    • http://www.minaslater.com/ Mina Slater

      @Syrana Haha I think I vent to Mr. Man the most too…and probably my mom!

  • dentistmel

    I vent all the time! I think my husband gets tired of it but oh well! My new years resolution was to be better at this and so far, so good!

    • http://www.minaslater.com/ Mina Slater

      @dentistmel Good for you!!! One of my resolutions was to be less of a brat…not sure I'm improving on that one yet! Lol

  • artsavesyou

    I really do my best not to complain about anything because there are so many bigger problems than mine. I do vent from time to time with my boyfriend though, it's just good to get stuff off your chest.

  • http://marlaandmakeup.blogspot.com/ marlaandmakeup

    I will admit, sometimes I am a constant complainer. But I check myself into reality and remind myself not only of all the blessings I have but also all the opportunities I have.

    In the end I think I am learning to become a better person. Great post!

  • http://kidsaregrown.blogspot.com/ Melissa Lawler

    My back hurts!

    • http://www.minaslater.com/ Mina Slater

      @Melissa Lawler Lol my head was hurting so bad earlier! Starting to get better now though. I hope your back feels better!

  • http://www.minaslater.com/ Mina Slater

    That's what I do too, I end up catching myself complaining and I have to snap back to reality that it's not really that serious. Lol.

  • LadyBeeArchie

    This is an AWESOME post!!! Limit your complaining and end with more positivity…Love it "button"!!!

  • http://www.savingsinseconds.com/ Dede

    Stopping by from the Alexa hop!

  • http://www.soshewritesbymissdre.com/ MissDre

    It's funny that I should read this today, especially since I started a "no complaining" strike this morning. Lately I found myself sounding like a few of those examples you were giving out above. At the end of the day, we are blessed and have so much to be thankful for. But in fits of frustration it seems so easy to let off steam and complain. I had become ungrateful for everything I asked God to give me over the past few years. Looking back on what my life was like before was a harsh reality check for me though. So, from today forward, I am striving to focus on all of the blessings I receive, rather than complain about things I don't have (and things my greed has convinced me I am somehow deserving of).

    I pray for your strength, your health, and that you remain beautifully blessed in all areas of your life, Mina. Thank you for sharing this post with us readers!

  • ms4composure1908

    Stumbled onto your blog and just wanted to show yous some blog luv! def enjoyed this post :)

    i like to vent by either writing it down or working out. it just seems to work for me. i try not to complain but some days you just cant help it

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  • maryjo1023

    I am Not a very optimistic Person, but when everything you wrote in this post is very true. I don't have a Job at this moment and when I had a job all I did was complain that I was frustrated and couldn't wait to leave and now that I Am no longer there or working it is truly hard finding a job even now during the holiday season. I am Humbled at everything you wrote and understand that I have to appreciate what I have and not whine all the time because there are people who are doing 10 times worse than I am so I am more than Appreciative that I have a family who is supporting me through these tough times. Thank you for your words of wisdom and encouragement.